The death of a loved one is one of the most difficult and
emotional events a family can experience in life. Rituals that bring together
family, friends and community to share in grief, such as funerals and memorial
services, are important events that help people accept the reality of loss and
help begin to heal.
When families choose cremation, they have the option to hold
a public or private viewing before cremation services take place. Although the
idea of seeing someone in their state of death can seem too hard to bring
oneself to do, it is actually one of the kindest things a family can do for
What is a viewing?
A viewing, visitation or wake can be a formal
or informal gathering of family and friends before the cremation takes place,
typically the day before services are held. The deceased is dressed and placed
in an open viewing casket or cremation casket in a private room. During a
private viewing, close family can spend time paying their respects and saying
goodbye to their loved one. A public viewing allows friends and people from the
community to visit, show the family their support, and pay their final
A viewing is an opportunity to say your final goodbye in the
presence of your loved one and is a time to extend comfort toward those who
you’ve gathered with. Visitation hours allow guests to come and go between a
set amount of time.
The benefits of a viewing
It’s not uncommon for people to feel nervous
before attending a viewing, and for this reason, some families choose to not
have one. But in over sixty years of helping families through loss, we have
rarely had a family regret choosing to view their loved one before final
It may seem counterintuitive, but viewing a loved one after
they’ve passed in a serene setting aids in the healing process. A person
perceives the world around them through their five senses, and seeing and
touching a loved one who has died allows the person to experience the reality
of the death, making it easier to accept what has happened. This doesn’t mean
viewing is easy. It can be extremely difficult. But it will also prevent an
unnecessary and extended grief process.
Just as a viewing can aid a family in their grief, it has
the same impact on friends, coworkers, and members of their community. The
opportunity to witness and accept an individual’s death and to say their own
final goodbye will help bring acceptance, closure and comfort in the long-term.
While this may seem painful on the surface, many families we serve express
relief after a loved one’s viewing, a testament to how important the event is
in the healing process.
Participating in Cremation Services
At Miller-Jones Mortuary & Crematory, families
have the option to have a small private viewing directly before cremation
services take place. If they choose, family members can walk with their loved
one in a private procession to the cremation retort. We also allow family
members to help guide their loved one into the machine and start it. This
intimate participation provides a comforting ritual to family members, giving
them the opportunity to be there with their loved one until the very end of
their time on earth.
The staff at Miller-Jones can help you plan a meaningful
viewing prior to cremation, and guide you through every step of the process, making
sure you and your family have all your needs met. Reach out to one of our
locations in Hemet, San Jacinto, Menifee, Perris, Moreno Valley, or Murietta at
(951) 658-3161. There will always be someone to answer your call.
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