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Funeral Etiquette

Everything You Need To Know About Funeral Etiquette

A funeral can be an overwhelming experience. When you’re grieving, it can feel difficult to know how to do and say the right thing. But funerals are not for stressing. They are for remembering your loved one, and finding solace with your community.

We at Miller-Jones want you to feel comforted by your loved one’s funeral services, not confused or unsure of what to do. Below, we have provided some funeral etiquette guidance so that when you attend a service at Miller-Jones Mortuary & Crematory, you can feel at peace.

What To Do At A Funeral Service

While every funeral service is unique, there are some rules of thumb to follow no matter what. First, you should always be respectful of your fellow mourners by keeping quiet around those who wish to reflect. Arrive on time, silence your phone, and keep your voice low so that you don’t distract from the funeral services.

While children are usually welcome at funeral services, you should always watch over them to both ensure their safety, and to make sure they aren’t a distraction. Funerals can be confusing for children, and it’s normal for them to need extra attention during this time. Giving them something small and quiet to focus on, like a book or a favorite stuffed animal, can be comforting to them during funeral services.

Once you are at the cemetery, stay on designated roads and walkways. Keep in mind that you will be walking on uneven terrain, so plan your footwear accordingly. Always respect cemetery visiting hours, and park your car so that you’re not blocking the road.

What Not To Do At A Funeral Service

You should never feel uncomfortable during a funeral service. Don’t feel that you have to stay longer than you want to. You can always call or visit the family later to pay your respects.

Likewise, don’t feel afraid to laugh and share happy memories and stories. The family will feel great comfort knowing their loved one brought happiness to so many people, and laughter is an important part of the healing process.

If there is a viewing, you do not have to look if you don’t want to. Remember that a funeral service is about what is most meaningful to your healing journey. If you don’t feel comfortable taking part in the viewing, stand to the side so that others who want to view their loved one can.

Finally, don’t be afraid to make a mistake, or say the wrong thing. You are already doing the right thing by attending the funeral and showing the family that their loved one meant something to you. If you do want to give your condolences to the family but are unsure of what to say, you can keep your remarks simple. “I’m so sorry for your loss,” is often the most basic yet comforting thing you can tell the family. Don’t feel that you need to “fix” the family’s grief with your words. Simply showing that you care is enough.

Miller-Jones Is Here To Help

We are proud to serve the people of the Hemet Valley and Inland Empire during their times of need. If you have any questions about funeral etiquette, please reach out to us at (951) 658-3161, or find a location closest to you. We are always available.