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5 Things to Consider When Planning a Funeral

5 Things to Consider When Planning a Funeral

Planning a loved one’s funeral is never an easy task. Through the continuous swell of emotions mixed with the stress of many decisions to make, being there for your family, and honoring your loved one’s final wishes, things can easily feel overwhelming. However, funerals are important in allowing us to honor a life and to say goodbye, and are part of the first steps on the journey toward healing. With some proper planning and a few helpful things to keep in mind, a difficult process can be made easier for everyone involved. Here are five important things to keep in mind when making funeral arrangements for a loved one:

1.     Communication is key. When planning a funeral service, it’s important to take into consideration not only your loved one’s wishes but those of other family members. If your loved one preplanned their funeral or documented their wishes beforehand, you’ll have helpful guidelines for your family to follow. However, if those instructions have not been detailed beforehand, disagreements on what the deceased would have wanted for their funeral and disposition can easily arise, making an already stressful time even more difficult.

Since a funeral is a critical part of the grieving process, it’s important to listen to the needs of each family member and to keep the lines of communication open so the entire family can have peace of mind knowing they did what they felt was best for their loved one. The staff at Miller Jones can help facilitate discussions and guide the family through all of the decisions that they will need to make.

2.     Create a personalized ceremony. Your funeral director will help with everything you need to make your loved one’s service one that honors the unique personality and passions of the individual. There are endless options to choose from when it comes to a customized service, and you can incorporate some in a traditional service, or make it as unique as you prefer.

For example, if Dad was a veteran, we’ll help you plan the military honors he’s eligible for, or if your Aunt loved jazz music, a quartet could be arranged to play at the reception. This is also the time to choose an officiant, pallbearers, family and friends who will read a eulogy and readings or say a few words about your loved one.

3.     Don’t forget about pre- and post-service plans. Before a funeral takes place, a family will have to decide on how the body should be prepared, whether they want a viewing or rosary to take place, writing and publishing an obituary, and taking care of necessary paperwork. This can be a stressful part of planning, but our dedicated funeral directors will walk you through every step in the process, providing guidance and expertise. After the funeral, some families choose to have a reception or celebration of life at a venue of their choosing, or make plans to scatter the cremated remains of their loved one in a special place.

4.     Don’t be afraid to ask about prices. Funeral and cremation costs can vary greatly, depending on many factors. It’s important to discuss your budget with your funeral director, so they can help you plan a beautiful goodbye that works for your family. If your loved one made prearrangements and paid for their services before their death, you won’t have to worry about planning or paying for it.

There are major benefits to preplanning—it unburdens families from a potential financial strain and protects them from rising costs in the future due to inflation. If you’re interested in learning more about preplanning, call one of our locations nearest you at any time.

5.     Be kind to yourself. We understand how hard losing a loved one is and the profound impact that loss has on individuals and families. It’s important to remember not to rush through the process, give yourself grace, time, and plenty of self-care. This will help you create a healthier healing process, and provide you the rest and support you’ll need to get through the initial period loss.

Funeral planning and interactions with family and friends can be exhausting. Try to reach out when you need help, and do your best to eat and stay hydrated.

Planning a funeral isn’t something anyone wants to do. When the time comes, we are here to make it as simple for you as possible, and provide the assistance you need to carry through. We are available 24/7 at all of our locations, serving the communities of Menifee, San Jacinto, Hemet, Perris, Moreno Valley, Murrieta, and their surrounding areas.