Why You Should Pre-Plan Your Funeral

Why it makes sense to make choices about your future funeral now.

Planning ahead is part of life. We plan for weddings, birthdays, and even trips to the grocery store. But when it comes to our own funeral arrangements, plans fall to the wayside. Thinking about our end-of-life arrangements can be difficult, but we’re here to help. Below, learn why pre-planning is important, and how to get started.

Why Pre-Planning Makes Sense

The period of time after loss is incredibly difficult, even without the burden of funeral planning. Grief will make even the most mundane aspects of daily life hard, and the physical and emotional sensations of loss can lead to feelings of confusion and uncertainty. This is no time for your family to become ensnared in the funeral planning process. They will need the time and space to grieve on their own terms. Funeral planning can interrupt and even delay the grieving process, and thus delay healing.

When you pre-plan your own funeral arrangements, you give your family the gift of a healthy grieving process. They won’t have to make difficult decisions about your funeral, or try to guess at what you would have wanted. It’s all too common for families to experience conflict over their loved one’s funeral, and to engage in “emotional spending” to try to avoid feelings of regret and guilt. When you pre-plan, you ensure that your funeral is a source of healing for your family, not turmoil.

Husband and wife preplanning their funeral on the computer

A Pre-Planning Checklist

There are several decisions to make when pre-planning:

  •  Do you want to be buried or cremated?
  • If you have chosen burial, what kind of casket do you prefer? Do you have a cemetery in mind?
  •  If you have chosen cremation, would you like your ashes buried or scattered? Are you interested in a scattering ceremony?
  • Do you want a religious service, or do you prefer a secular ceremony?

Once you have made the “big picture” decisions, you can focus on the smaller yet meaningful decisions such as:

  • What kind of music would you like to be played?
  • Who would you like to speak at your services?
  • If you’ve chosen to have a viewing, what would you like to be wearing?
  • Is there a keepsake or something else you’d like your guests to be able to take home with them?

If you don’t know all the answers right now, that’s ok. We are here to help you go over all of your options and make meaningful decisions that are best for you and your family.

How to Get Started 

At Miller-Jones, getting started with pre-planning is as easy as filling out a form. You’ll be asked to make a few decisions about your funeral services. After, one of our funeral directors will call you to go deeper into the pre-planning process. Don’t worry, you can change your mind about anything on the form. It’s just a starting point for the pre-planning journey.

This is just an overview of the pre-planning process, and you might have many more questions not addressed here. We are here to help the Inland Empire, California community through this process. Call us anytime at (951) 658-3161.

Start Planning Now

To start the pre-planning process, you can fill out our pre-planning form. Or feel free to reach us by phone any time, and one of our consultants will help guide you through every option.