Most people avoid
the topic of death. Most people really avoid the topic of their own. Thinking
about your own impermanence on earth, or your loved ones grieving the loss of
you, are things the majority of Americans prefer not to do if they don’t have
to. As uncomfortable as it may feel, talking about your final wishes with those
closest to you can be very beneficial to them. Actually making your final
arrangements in advance is a gift.
about what you want your family to do with your body and what kind of gathering
to have in honor of your life is important. We often see families argue about
what Dad or Mom would have wanted, adding an unfortunate and heavier burden to
an already difficult time. Many people believe that by telling their family not
to have a funeral, it will alleviate them from added grief when the time comes.
However, this is far from the truth. Taking away the opportunity to gather with
friends and family in shared grief and support can actually prolong the process
of healing from loss. Connecting with one’s community to talk about their
collective loss has profound benefits to help the bereaved cope and come to
terms with a loved one’s death.
own funeral, memorial service or celebration of life takes a multitude of extra
burdens off your family’s shoulders. Preplanning is the act in which a
family records their arrangement preferences and vital statistics in advance to
alleviate their families from having to do so at the time of need.
When someone dies,
there is a laundry list of things to do, people to call, and decisions to be
made. Typically, there can be anywhere between 75-125 different decisions that
need to be made when someone passes away. Even the simplest final arrangements
come with details and responsibilities that, for a grieving individual, can
feel monumentally difficult. It’s hard enough for a family to lose a
loved one, let alone to then have to come to the funeral home to record
information and make decisions that have never been thought about.
By choosing your
method of disposition (Above or in-ground burial? Cremation? Scattering?),
casket or urn, type of flower arrangements, venue, communicating the details of
your obituary, and more ahead of time, you ensure your family won’t have to
think about it at all. This frees them to spend more time where they’re needed
most, and less time worrying about the particulars. The more you plan in
advance, the less your family has to do when the times comes.
Paying for your cremation
or burial and funeral services in advance can alleviate the financial
responsibility from your loved ones. But that’s not the only benefit. By
pre-paying for your funeral costs, you are guaranteed protection from inflated
prices years and even decades down the road. (Some costs, such as
state-regulated fees for licenses and death certificates, are not included.) When
you pay ahead of time, your funeral plan
policy is protected and held by an insurance company until the time of your
death, guaranteeing that it will be available at the time of need. If you move
out of state or should the funeral go out of business, your money is protected.
The thought of
coming to a funeral home to discuss your own final arrangements can seem
daunting. But what you actually experience can help put you at ease. At Miller
Jones, you have the option to meet with one of our pre-planning advisors
wherever you feel most comfortable—at one of our locations, virtually or on the
phone, or at your home. They will help guide you through your options and help
you make the best choices for you and your family.
When you die, the responsibility
of planning your arrangements must fall on someone. What if it didn’t have to
be your loved ones? By pre-planning, all they have to do when the time comes is
call the funeral home and answer a few questions. Everything is taken care of
for them, freeing them to be with the people who need them most.
If you’d like to learn more about pre-planning,
call us at (951) 658-3161. We’re happy to answer any questions you have.
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